In my line of work, I not only talk to couples whose love is just starting out and singles whose love has fallen out, but I also spend quite a bit of time talking to couples who have stood the test of time. These are the couples who have been together for 25 years or more. I interview them regularly and learn from them everything I can so that I can make sure you get to learn from them too.
Today I was talking with an amazing woman who has been married for over 30 years to the love of her life. In the conversation she said,
“I have done a lot of things in my life, some of them well and some not so much. One thing I have done exceptionally well is be married.”
This of course piqued my interest and I had to learn more.
NOBODY LEAVES HOME WITHOUT A KISS
We talked for a long time about many things (and I will share them with you as I can in more future posts), but something that stood out to me that I wanted to tell you about today was a simple but profound piece of advice. She said,
“Rituals bond us together over time. My husband and I, for thirty years now have had a special ritual that I believe has made a difference in the quality and security of our relationship. Neither of us ever leaves without kissing the other good-bye. Not to the store, not to walk across the street. Nobody leaves home without a kiss.”
Seems simple, doesn’t it? It is more than that; it is powerful. She went on to explain to me that even when the days were hard and they were unhappy with each other in the moment, that kiss was their own quiet reassurance that love was still there.
She also said that it was also a little bit of insurance for them against the uncertainty of life. If one of them left and something terrible happened, how would they remember their last moment together? This special couple would remember that the last thing that happened was they kissed and shared a moment where they both were conscious of their love.
Quite beautiful, isn’t it?
WHAT WILL YOU DO?
What love ritual will you and your special someone join in together to strengthen your bond over time?
By the way, you can certainly use the same one. Remember, it was her advice and she is someone who has done this exceedingly well.
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